Relationship Reset: Fighting to Win

Selected Scriptures

Connect:

• Share how you have seen God in the Highs and Lows of your week.

Prayer:

Pray that God would lead your discussion time and bring fresh insight, conviction, and hope through your time together.

Review:

Relationships shape every part of our lives — at home, at work, in dating, in marriage, and across generations. But without intentionality, even the most important relationships can drift from God’s design. Relationship Reset is a practical and biblical journey toward realignment — learning how to build healthier marriages, wiser dating lives, stronger families, better workplace connections, and more redemptive conflict. From motherhood and fatherhood to screens and singleness, this series challenges us to stop drifting and start building. Because when our relationships align with God’s design, they don’t just function — they flourish. This week, we looked at what is really worth fighting FOR together in a relationship as we navigate inevitable conflicts and tensions…

The Grand Tour of the message: Thinking back on what you heard this Sunday…

o What did you learn about God?

o What did you learn about people?

o What did you learn about yourself?

o What do you want to commit to putting into practice?

Reflection:

Personal Experience & Discussion:

• Share about a time when you took a risk to do what was right. Maybe it was in a family relationship where you risked offending a loved one. Maybe it was at work with a boss and risked losing your job. DISCUSS: What happened and why was it worth the risk TO YOU to do the right thing?

• Reflective Discussion (Remember to look at the context of the verses as you are reading! Look for key terms and help the group unpack and define them):

  • Peace is very difficult to maintain in the long term when people get together to do… pretty much anything! DISCUSS: How do the following passages inform our understanding of what it takes to “seek peace (Shalom)? (Lev 19:18, Ps 34:14, John 13:34-35, John 14:27, Col 3:15, Rom 12:18, Rom 14:19, Eph 4:2, Phil 2:3-4, James 3:18)

  • When we feel betrayed, we want to bring the whole force of justice to our aid in validating self and seeking vengeance. DISCUSS:: How do the following passages help us in responding in a godly way to personal betrayal (Gen 50:20, Prov 20:22, Is 1:17, Micah 6:8, Matt 5:44, Rom 12:19, 1 Cor 6:7-8, 1 Peter 2:23)

  • Sometimes when we hear about “humility”, we fear that if we are meek while in conflict, we will get flattened! DISCUSS: How do these passages help us understand the connection between “meekness / trust” and “Strength / courage”? (Prov 3:5,6, Prov 11:2, Matt 23:12, Rom 8:28, Col 3:12, 1 Peter 5:6-7)

  • We can actually create space for reconciliation (reset) to happen in our relationships! Prayer, humility, going directly to the person, being patient… they are all part of it. DISCUSS: How do the following passages help us in creating space for a ‘reset’ to happen in our relationships? (Prov 15:1, Rom 15:2, Eph 4:15, Phil 2:4, Col 4:6, Jam 1:19,)

Application:

We all have tensions of various kinds in our relationships. Commit to taking time this week before the Lord to have Him bring to mind places where forgiveness, humility, listening… might be necessary to reset a conflict we are facing.

Prayer:

Spend some time thanking God for the beauty of the peace that comes under His reign, and recommit yourselves to “seek peace and pursue it”.

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